Eight Reasons Why People Hesitate to Become a Mentor (but, shouldn’t)


We understand that the thought of being a mentor can be intimidating, and often it feels like now isn’t the right time. 

But, the truth is the perfect time to become a mentor is now. We aren’t looking for perfect people, just present people. And there is a child on our waiting list who is looking for a mentor just like you.  

Here are eight reasons why people hesitate to become mentors and how the Big Brothers Big Sisters’ experience is different. We work with you to ensure you have a great mentoring experience and are matched with a mentee that’s right for you.

The first step toward becoming a mentor is signing up for an Info Session

Already attended an info session? Schedule your Volunteer Interview

1. They believe it will require too much time.​

Most people don’t realize how easy it is to be a mentor. It takes just a little time, and the impact on a kid’s life is significant! You’ll meet with your Little for a few hours twice a month.

2. They believe they don’t measure up. ​

Mentorship allows you to think about and share your experiences. While reflecting on your positive and negative experiences, you may also learn something new.

3. They believe it will cost too much or they don’t have enough money to make it a good experience for their mentee.

The quality of time invested with your Little is more important than the amount of money you spend. That’s why we don’t encourage spending a lot of money on your outings. The goal of the relationship is to help him see the world through a different lens so you can inspire him to become something he never thought possible.

4. They fear being matched with someone they have nothing in common with.​

Mentoring is a unique opportunity to step outside your normal circle of friends and family to gain an understanding of how the world looks through someone else’s eyes. And an excellent opportunity to connect with the next generation.

5. They don’t think of themselves as a great leader.​

Listening, demonstrating patience, providing guidance and support, and helping figure out the best path forward are all trademarks of a great leader and skills honed through mentoring.

6. They are intimidated by year-long commitment.

Time flies when you’re having fun! Many of our matches end up turning into lifelong friendships. We’ve found that once you get into a consistent routine of outings with your mentee, time passes quickly. One minute you are helping them with homework for middle school, and the next minute you are attending their high school graduation.

7. They’ve never been a mentor before and don’t know how it works.

As a mentor with Big Brothers Big Sisters of Orange County, you will participate in a volunteer training workshop where we will walk you through situational scenarios to help prepare you for mentorship. We also have a series of online videos for you to watch to help you feel completely comfortable in your match. In addition, your Match Support Specialist will be there every step of the way to offer customized support as your match progresses.

8. They don’t believe they will get anything out of it.

Most of us long for a legacy; what better legacy than to be a part of shaping tomorrow’s leaders? We also believe that there’s nothing more rewarding than knowing you are making a difference in someone else’s life. (And it’s a lot of fun!) 

The first step toward becoming a mentor is signing up for an Info Session

Already attended an info session? Schedule your Volunteer Interview


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